Why do I do things I don’t like?
This is a question I have
recently asked myself, because like I have mentioned before, I am constantly seeking
for light even as I try to be one in someone’s life out there. I don’t have
everything figured out, I struggle with imperfections, with shortcomings,
failure sometimes, impatience, loss of self-confidence, because I am human and I
am working towards improving myself every day, it’s not an event, it’s a process.
And as much as this platform is a
platform that helps remind somebody that they are worthy , beautiful and can be
the best version of themselves, it is also my ground for growth and self-expression,
hoping that somebody out there may learn a thing or two about themselves as I constantly
am doing this year, come let’s grow together.
From the title of today’s
post, you can tell this is a question directed to me as much as it is to you
too. Why do you keep doing things you don’t like? Let’s dive into it.
Answer: …Because you have
to. But it doesn’t necessarily have to stay that way..
I was just thinking, “Hm Christine
on all the things you do every time, every morning, every day of your life for
the past two to five years, how much of it is really of your making? How much
of it would you solely accept that you started doing simply because you love or
like doing?” I looked at my daily routine and my habits, and I figured that
most of the things I do, are not of my own making, simply because of my
society, my place in the community I come from, part of my African culture, part
of it being work culture and simply influence from Social Media, and partly
from the books I read, and oh my financial status, yes, there is no way we can separate
this from the ways we live our lives. I mean money is money people, really, the
elephant in the room., agreed?, Ok let’s go.
Where am I going with this? I
simply am saying there are things in life that we do and we don’t like doing
them, I mean we don’t have a choice do we, they just have to be done for life
to move? Of course I can’t be waking up and call house helps to bring me
breakfast in bed, whilst I prepare to go on my treadmill to exercise a bit
before starting my luxurious day, with my cook currently revising the month’s menu for me the Madame of
course. I can’t do these things, why, you ask? Because I can’t afford it, just
yet (and of course even if I reach a point where I can afford it, it’s not in
my nature to boss people around, I mean I like the sound of it, but I just can’t,
so don’t worry, I won’t greet you with a stick, like we say from where I come
from [which simply refers to someone’s
pompousness and pride after acquiring riches], when I become
wealthy, #laughs).But until then there are things that I just have to do and I don’t
like doing them, just because I am not yet in a stage in my life where I can
afford to do things I like doing all the darn time.
But here is the thing, as
much as we don’t always get what we want in life, and we just don’t have a
choice in other areas of our lives, we have things that we can control. These
are the things I want to talk about. These things include: HABITS, ROUTINES,
EXPRESSING YOURSELF, RELATIONSHIPS and our JOBS. This is pretty much going to
come in two parts for the next couple of weeks or so, and we are still looking
for a name for this mini-series, yeah. Which means today we focus on the first two
“HABITS & ROUTINES”. I personally discovered that there are things I do,
but that do not make me necessarily happy, but I do anyway, because I have to
do them for my life to move, such as waking up early, clean-up the house and other
things and then go to work. I pretty much miss a whole lot of many things, I love
I could do the rest of the day, to maximize my happiness. I once mentioned some
of them before, and I will be specifying on how to make your habits and routine
work for you towards achieving happiness (Always remember the ultimate goal is
happiness and not perfection).
How
to make your daily ROUTINE and HABITS work for you incorporating things you
like:
· ROUTINE – Do
not have a fixed routine (this applies to morning and night), things done every
day, over and over and over again, become so boring and stale. The moment you
start feeling this way, your productivity levels decrease, because who likes “stale”.
Switch things up in your routine and
color your world.
·
In the morning when you exercise, note one thing, it doesn’t have to be stiff, commanded
and boring. I used to hate exercise simply because I have always thought it
means weights, treadmills, gym clothes and steel and heavy rubber. The moment I
got a little interested in it and searched a bit about it, I figured you can
exercise through skipping rope or dance too, and I mean does your girl here
love dancing? Hell yeah, I do, so I do that, I dance a lot. I can’t promise you
I’m consistent and dance exercise every day, because I don’t #laughs, I don’t do
that every day, but every other week, but it makes me so happy because I like
dance and also help me boost some hormones that can only be released through
exercise.
·
To make yourself even useful and lively, try
to wake up very early to start your
routine, trust me waking up earlier than six o’clock makes you even more
productive and to cover all parts of your routine an incorporate more of the
things you like, which in turns lights up your day and makes you an even
happier person to work with or around, which is a win-win for everybody.
·
HABITS-
I’m
pretty sure most of the things I’m going to mention here I have mentioned
before, but I can never say stress them enough. You need to practise Gratitude.
We don’t always have the things we want in life, but if you look closely we
usually have what we need. And I must also mention that you also to have to be
too contended, it paralysis your creativity. If you need to read more on this
(refer to my other post titled: “Gratitude and not Contentment Please”.
·
In a world that is constantly seeking to
cripple us and fight with our happy buttons stay positive. Positivity is a state that calls, good things to happen to you,
drawn closer by the power of “AFFIRMATIONS”, You say out what you want to
happen and let it go out there, work on it, we don’t work “hard” anymore we
work “smart”, so that our goals may be reached. And oh please, note that you
can be positive but also not forgetting reality, you can’t expect to be successful
by just practicing positivity, but it can help you express yourself better expecting
better results than self-doubting.
·
Have a habit of learning from mistakes, and better yourself on the way, to produce
better results. This is just what it
is, in its full sense, Learn, learn and learn!!!
·
N.B In
every good/bad habit you do, always remember that it’s not something you “have”,
it’s something you “do”, it is a doing word, which means that you have control
over it. All I’m saying is, you don’t always
have to do something you don’t like to be productive, you can put in a little
spice here and there to make it brighten up your day, it’s not simple as that ,
(I wish it was, but it can be done).
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