Welcome back, to those who are
visiting for the first time hello, it’s your girl Christine who puts a little
bit of Chriss in every detail and is here to hang-out with you talking about
life and a little bit of everything, the ultimate goal is growth here, so feel
free to share your views and if you have any topic about self-development you
want to talk about just do your thing in the comment box.
Today’s topic is a serious topic
that is more taboo than it is sensitive in an African Society and it makes so mad
and sad unfortunately, (I say unfortunately because for people who know me,
they know you don’t want to mess with me when I’m mad, I’m like a teenager with
raging hormones, full blown madness). We are talking about suicidal thoughts
and what causes it, and how the African society takes some of the things as
taboos that cannot be seen or heard of , let alone talk about , but it is what
can build or destroy our societies. I recently had an experience with the “life
is short”, sentiment when someone close to family almost lost their life and it
awakened me from the death of silence that the African people’s voice is as far
as mental issues are concerned. The voice is a mere whisper, almost a loud
silence, and it is high time we spoke about this.
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| It is never the answer...IT IS IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE!!! |
Suicidal thoughts are not “merely evil spirits haunting a person”, it is more than just thoughts, it is psychological, a mixture of depression, not being heard, not having someone to talk to, high vulnerability, anger, hurt, despair, trauma and a whole lot of issues, I repeat it is not just mere evil spirits overtaking a person it is more than just a person being possessed by something it is psychological. Remember your mind is the most powerful tool in your life, it can build at the same time it can destroy; it has complete power over your life a power which we all need to keep in check. It tells you, confidence gives you many things and if it builds in excess ,confidence destroys, if it tells you , you are worthless, it switches up the volume so high up the only option is to end all, you see the power that the mind possesses, its deep.
Misconceptions in the African societies
on mental health have always clouded our minds when we encounter someone
experiencing them we label the person as crazy or possessed, and in that case
they need to be beaten to retain their sanity, we need to visit this
spiritualist or that, but is it really going to address the root cause. It
makes me so mad our societies as far as this issue is concerned are still so
far back and we need to learn more on the topic. There is a whole lot of
education that needs to be given to our societies and begins with you and me.
People have issues, I mean we all have issues, but to some they are too much,
some cannot handle them by themselves, but most cannot, we need each other, we
need therapy, we need to talk, we need to speak freely about issues affecting
us, there is more to life than just getting everything you want at your
disposal, we are humans we need to feel loved and have a sense of belonging.
I will take this moment to shout
out to mothers out there, talk to your children, give them love, give them
attention, more than the resources you provide for them, they need those and of
course they appreciate those, even if they have a funny way of showing it, they
need love, we all need it. Of course there are things that we go through in our
lives that are beyond our control, but we can do so much to protect our
children, our partners, our sisters, your family and all the other people close
to us. Likewise to everybody keep in
check of your loved ones, create time to talk about life in general. If we
cannot at least talk lets us show love, kindness, a giving hand, not be
violent, sleep well, eat well, be observant, listen and care for each other.
Depression is real and when it hits it eats up to the inner-core, I have had
episodes myself and all I did was cry and it even made things worse. Nothing is
ever too small; lend an ear and a shoulder you never know who needs it. Above
all seek for professional help; there are people who are qualified to help with
this very sensitive issue, and safe a life!!!
Always remember: “Suicidal thoughts are temporary, but
suicide is permanent. Suicidal thoughts are not reality, it is just illness
talking, you have every reason to live to see the day you make yourself and
your loved ones proud, and you need to be present to enjoy the feeling.”
Life is too short, appreciate the
people around you, be grateful, be open, there is more for you in life, and
when you fail, it is second chance to give it another shot, taking away your
life only creates more problems for the people you love that are left behind.
Life is all the answer you need, it has a hundred fold versions of answers to
everything, and death is definitely not one of those. Lets speak more on the issue of mental health and acknowledge it is what it is "mental health", and not witchcraft...Help me to help us!!!
#notosuicide #yestolife #yestomorelove #fightthesilence #conquer2019
This message is so important and it should be preached out until everyone knows that suicide is not an option at all. Many times we all pretend that all is well when deep down we are so wounded and dying and we don't reach out for help bcz maybe we have been laughed at before or or we don't want to give people something to talk about in the streets or on social media but the truth is when going through such difficulties we need someone to talk to (professionals to be precise). We also need to stop the habit of telling our loved ones who are crying out for help to suck it up bcz that's how growing up is or that's how marriage is or men don't cry... It makes one feel worthless and they are not strong enough to endure whatever they are going through...
ReplyDeletethank you very much Leesa well said, i feel that our societies have embraced without a fight this thing of saying for you to be seen as strong you must endure the pain, but is this building us or its destroying our future, we need to talk more about these issues and kill the silence, thank you for sharing your valid view
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