My Biggest Flaw (Dealing with it: How to)

Welcome back lovlies, I hope I find you all well , I am not bad myself, but just having an episode of reflections lately and I thought I should share with you one of my biggest flaws and how I have learnt to deal with it over time. There could be someone out here who also struggles with this flaw and is seeking to find ways of dealing with it as well as someone who has figured a way of dealing with it. That is why we have this platform so that we can share ideas and grow together.👭

I personally struggle with an animal called “PROCRASTINATION”, yippy I spelled that right, usually I write it as “procastination”, don’t do this you all, that’s wrong it has an “r” between c and a, right? Right! Yes this animal, and I have decided to give it so much power over like it used to be ,man , it used to play me left, right and centre, but I got repellent for it now. Sometimes it creeps so silent on me and beat me at my own game, oh it does, but most of the times when I have my repellent on, I slap it right in its face and it falls down with a really loud thud, and it feels so good, the feeling is addictive, and I realised all I can do this, this is not a life sentence, it’s just a habit. Procrastination is just a habit, that is all it is. It is not a life sentence, you all. To me it’s more of a bad habit, although I can manipulate it to works for me sometimes, oh I am still figuring that out, trust me, when I do, I will gladly share.

So I procrastinate a whole lot, I do not know how, but I know why. Let me share with you the reasons:

I have a paralyzing fear of failure, which is a bad thing because it is just not fear, but too much of it. The few times I failed I didn’t take it well, which I am also working on. I now understand that we all learn from failure because we are human, and the fear of failure paralyzes us and we remain unlearned. Will talk more about that another time, right? Right... Over the years I have learnt to accept that I am not good at everything, no one is really, but in some areas I have to work harder than in others, and I will fail at one point but what makes me better is rising up, picking up from where I left, redoing it , and better this time, do corrections and come out great.

Before now it was always about self-doubt (thank goodness I improved on this aspect even I am still shocked at myself). This self-doubt was always about thinking I’m not good enough, Z is better than me and I doubt I will ever be as good, I can’t do this well, what if I do this and never finish. What if, what if , and a whole lot more self-doubt, this is also crippling, as much as fear of failure was.

The other thing was and sometimes still is poor organizing skills. I think this affects many people out here and even more than we all can imagine. Ask yourself; am I not guilty as charged here? Yes you, do you have good organizing skills? Are you organized? Do you have a planner, diary or anything that reminds you of things you have to do and what time you should allocate each task? This might apply at school, work, church organization, anywhere you have some tasks that need to be done. Ask yourself, I see #laughs#, you don’t do you? Or if you have, do you really follow it? To be honest I never had any of these and this saw me postponing tasks a whole lot, thinking I have all the time in the world, and I always missed datelines or just had to do everything last minute, which is a no no if success is the ultimate goal.

PLAN , make planners your friends.

I must also mention this one, this is a good one; mere laziness, really that’s all it is about most of the time, just mere laziness. If asked to choose between typing a ten paged assignment and my bed and my sleep, definitely I will run for the latter I mean seriously would you choose the former when you have a month to submit the assignment, you genius right. Right! That attitude gets you in trouble, it’s probably why you are a procrastinator like me# eheheheh, I got you.

Sometimes I used to procrastinate simply because when the due date is about to knock on my door, that’s when my creative juices would start flowing, um at least that’s what I convinced myself. I found thrill in the rush that came with the speed i had to deliver the task under, however this always made me perform below the standard I could have delivered with had I not been under so much pressure. Which brings us to the next point; you don’t need to put yourself under unnecessary pressure if you manage to beat this procrastination.

You can beat procrastination through employing some of the following methods I have since adopted. I am still struggling, but I am now much better than before and still going stronger. You can choose whichever you want to adopt but also can use all of them to maximize on excellence, after all it’s all we striving for right?

BEAT PROCRASTINATION THROUGH:

• ·         Planning: Write things down allocating resources for each task accordingly
• ·         Committing: make commitments with your projects
• ·         Visualizing the future you want if you finish the task/project
• ·         Become a time warrior by scheduling your tasks based on time-frames
• ·         Use procrastination to your advantage
• ·         Always have plan B, if it fails, use plan C, we have twenty-six letters on the alphabet

·         Above all, take small steps and don’t be radical, biting more than you can chew is usually why you in trouble a whole lot, try these ways and if it doesn’t work, I guarantee you, I will take this post down #laughs. PEACE OUT!!!

Hope you find this useful, if not you can also chip in and help me help others, you are the OG, thank you for reading, and have a good day, xoxo!!!

#gettingorganized #conquer2019 #beatprocrastination